I don’t know why my brain works the way it does. I definitely don’t understand how other people’s brains work. We’re all different in this weird, brilliant way. This has always posed many problems through out time; look at any snapshot in history. Today’s unique problem is that we are all so connected, that we are disconnected. People don’t want to talk anymore. They’d rather jump to their own conclusions, read between the lines, talk to one person about another person, and make things really murky.
“It’s not distance that keeps people apart, but lack of communication.”
I remember learning as a parent how it’s best to be as honest with your children as possible, because what they make up in their own head is so much worse. If you don’t confront someone and get to the root of the discussion, if you let it sit and fester, it becomes a cancer. I don’t get this aspect, how can you be so afraid that you won’t just talk to someone? How are going to make it in life if you’re so disconnected you don’t know how to ask someone a simple question? I get it, we live in a society where a simple question can be perseved as bullying, but really, how did things get so bad?
“If I waited for perfection, I would never write a word.” – Margaret Atwood
I think about this a lot. I deal with certain human beings who avoid conflict to the extreme that when they are confronted with something, they feel bullied and harassed, so the person confronting them gets in trouble. Instead of sitting the two down and talking it out, now we have a group out there teaching that it’s okay to never come to resolution on any problems, and to just ignore the fact that they exist at all. When the fuck did that become something that was taught. No wonder we have a whole society of humans that can’t even leave their house to try and provide for their families.
“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it---it dies.” – Tony Gaskins
I was listening to the morning news, and they were talking to this police commissioner that was having to train his new officers how to talk to people. He was finding that his new recruits were so afraid to confront people on calls that they would either avoid the call, miss key observations because they were so nervous, or escalate the confrontation unreasonably. This is a huge problem. I see it in the military, health care, and at the gym- a movement of not talking and not problem solving.
“No one ever wetted clay and then left it, as if there would be bricks by chance and fortune.” - Plutarch
The fix. I don’t know, I feel like we need to talk more. We need to over communicate. It might not be pretty, but we need to start somewhere. People need to grow thicker skins. It’s not okay to run away and get someone in trouble because they hurt your feelings, just by giving you constructive criticism. If it is a real problem- go report it, but if it’s “they hurt your feelings” BS, talk to them, come to a resolution, Jesus, find some intestinal fortitude! You think anyone successful got there by not talking? Get out there and be a Neuro Ninja!
Make ‘em talk people!
Hard Time Make Hard People. Live Uncommon
- February 03, 2018
- Ben Seims