How do you know how to parent? How do you know how to make the best decision for your kids? How do you ever know if you’ve done it right? Hell, how do you balance time, career, school, loved ones, your love life, and your kid’s activities without loosing yourself along the way? I’m pretty sure there are plenty of strategies, countless words of wisdom, and a thousand different answers for these questions. Ultimately, you’re the only one who can answer those questions, but it doesn’t ever hurt to get advice from those who have lived it.
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.
- Albert Einstein
Having my little squad of zombie hunters has been the most amazing and brilliant journey I never knew I was having. Things happen so fast, that before you know it you’re looking up at your minis wondering how the hell that happened. Most days I feel that I could have done absolutely nothing and my boys would have still turned into the fine young men that they are today. Hell, ask anyone, if my boys can make it in this world in spite of me, lets just say, you and your minis are going to be just fine.
“There's no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
In short, I don’t have any answers for you, and if you search your brain bucket real hard-you probably have the answers you need already. If that didn’t help, then here’s what I know for myself:
- Take some extra time to just stare at your kiddo’s. Try to remember every feature, every expression, every tick. Try to remember the sound of their voice, of their laugh, of the change in pitch when they are upset but haven’t quite figured out how to talk about it with you yet.
- Take the time to get away from whatever you think is so important at the moment, and ask them anything-everything- and then listen to their answer, actually listen and remember what they told you. It’s important.
- Hold them. For no reason at all, hold them and remember what it’s like; because it will be gone before you know it. Teach your boys how to be men, and girls how to better than men. If you don’t know what that means, I don’t what to tell you.
- If your kids stop calling you for help, and only call you because they want your time- you did pretty damn good, but that doesn’t mean you’re done. So if they want your time, give it to them, and take every chance you can to spend time with them, even when they are forty.
If your lucky, you’ll get to watch your children walk out of your house not needing you anymore, right when you realize how much you’ve needed them, I’m pretty sure that’s the way it’s supposed to be.
Raise some Zombie Killers, and freaking badass superheroes.
Hard times make Hard people. Live Uncommon.
- January 19, 2018
- Ben Seims